Hi,
Personally, i have installed a LAMP system (i think its an option when doing a text based install ) and vmware on an ubuntu 7.10 server and they worked great. Haven't tried on another distro coz of time limitations!
Unfortunately, this is a journey you have to embrace alone after everyone has heaped praises on their prefered choice of distro....i won't say which is my favourite coz it will serve to confuse you more. :-)
That said, take it a step at a time....am assuming you have time to play around with the distros.
"After a lot of hard work, I have graduated to a normal linux user.
still, i am so inexperienced that i have wasted a whole week of person-hours............... I hereby sought your advice on the most suitable linux distribution for linux power users"
Out of curiosity (with a smile on me face)......you have bridged the gap between normal user and power user rather quickly..........hehe
My 2 cents!